on 2004 Dec 16 - 23:03 | reply to this comment
The anonymous poster said:
So which is the more openminded viewpoint? It's pretty obvious.
It is indeed.
My husband and I prefer a Taken in Hand style relationship, but we don't claim that our preferences are better or worse than those who are purely into BDSM. The same goes, as far as I can see, for most of the people on this website.
We also don't claim that our practises are safer, more tolerant, more whatever, than anyone elses.
There is no reason on earth why couples of any orientation or preference can't have a Taken in Hand type of relationship. The slant this website has reflects the bias of it's owner/creator, and therefore attracts people with similar interests, as well as people who think we're wrong (or perverted, or sick, or any number of other insults that get thrown at people living "non-standard" lives).
What most of us here accept (I think!) is that there is no right or wrong way to conduct a relationship. No way is better or worse than any other. The only thing that matters is that the people in the relationship are happy. Horses for courses and all that.
I'm not replying because I think a Taken in Hand style relationship is better than BDSM. I'm replying because I know it is different from BDSM. Not better. Not worse. Just different.
"There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so" Hamlet, somewhere.
on 2004 Dec 16 - 23:59 | reply to this comment
There are unsafe practices everywhere