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Both Sexes Prefer Fun and Informal Dates
Is Sexual Selection Theory Up For Grabs?
Pluralistic Ignorance = Sexual Stupidity Squared?
“Hot & Mean” vs. “Not Hot & Nice”: What Do Girls Want?
A Nice Guy Tells You How to Win His Heart
Choose Attraction
Marcotte’s Boxers Are In a Twist Over Nice Guys
The Sexual Revolution and You
How Guys Really Feel About the Girls They Hook Up With
Have Women Been Screwed by the Sexual Revolution?
…so would you always consider physical cues [touching/trying to kiss/dressing provocatively] a bad idea? I mean, as long as you don’t come on too strong, it could work.
3Rae October 5, 2011 at 6:36 pm
Captain Awkward has the perfect advice. (I adore Captain Awkward.)
4Stanley October 5, 2011 at 6:39 pm
The world would be better if most women learn that. This is such a great article.
5Bellita October 5, 2011 at 7:09 pm
@Rae
Thanks for sharing the Captain Obvious link!
Bellita´s last [type] ..Not Born, But Trained
6Susan Walsh October 5, 2011 at 7:32 pm
…so would you always consider physical cues [touching/trying to kiss/dressing provocatively] a bad idea? I mean, as long as you don’t come on too strong, it could work.
It depends on your objective. I wouldn’t dangle any bait that implies sex might be forthcoming quickly if you’re seeking a relationship. That’s a tease, and it usually backfires quickly. I do think that a light touch on the arm while flirting with a guy is nice, and not too intimidating. It’s a pretty clear IOI, so that’s good.
A good rule of thumb is don’t act sexy unless you want to get sexy. If you act friendly and open most guys will at least get that you enjoy their company. That reduces the risk considerably.
7Susan Walsh October 5, 2011 at 7:50 pm
@Rae
Thanks for introducing me to Captain Awkward. She’s hilarious!
8OhioStater October 5, 2011 at 8:53 pm
Long time no see!
Personally, I don’t like it when girls approach guys because its demoralizing. If a girl is waiting to be approached and she goes home with a guy, you can at least think you would have been that guy if you had the balls to approach.
If the girl is approaching guys, and she doesn’t approach you, then you know she doesn’t like you. I’ve gone out with girls that may have wanted another guy, but I took the initiative and persisted.
Furthermore, hypergamous girls are likely to approach the same guys, or SAME guy (singular). Bad news all around.
Is Sexual Selection Theory Up For Grabs?
Pluralistic Ignorance = Sexual Stupidity Squared?
“Hot & Mean” vs. “Not Hot & Nice”: What Do Girls Want?
A Nice Guy Tells You How to Win His Heart
Choose Attraction
Marcotte’s Boxers Are In a Twist Over Nice Guys
The Sexual Revolution and You
How Guys Really Feel About the Girls They Hook Up With
Have Women Been Screwed by the Sexual Revolution?
…so would you always consider physical cues [touching/trying to kiss/dressing provocatively] a bad idea? I mean, as long as you don’t come on too strong, it could work.
3Rae October 5, 2011 at 6:36 pm
Captain Awkward has the perfect advice. (I adore Captain Awkward.)
4Stanley October 5, 2011 at 6:39 pm
The world would be better if most women learn that. This is such a great article.
5Bellita October 5, 2011 at 7:09 pm
@Rae
Thanks for sharing the Captain Obvious link!
Bellita´s last [type] ..Not Born, But Trained
6Susan Walsh October 5, 2011 at 7:32 pm
…so would you always consider physical cues [touching/trying to kiss/dressing provocatively] a bad idea? I mean, as long as you don’t come on too strong, it could work.
It depends on your objective. I wouldn’t dangle any bait that implies sex might be forthcoming quickly if you’re seeking a relationship. That’s a tease, and it usually backfires quickly. I do think that a light touch on the arm while flirting with a guy is nice, and not too intimidating. It’s a pretty clear IOI, so that’s good.
A good rule of thumb is don’t act sexy unless you want to get sexy. If you act friendly and open most guys will at least get that you enjoy their company. That reduces the risk considerably.
7Susan Walsh October 5, 2011 at 7:50 pm
@Rae
Thanks for introducing me to Captain Awkward. She’s hilarious!
8OhioStater October 5, 2011 at 8:53 pm
Long time no see!
Personally, I don’t like it when girls approach guys because its demoralizing. If a girl is waiting to be approached and she goes home with a guy, you can at least think you would have been that guy if you had the balls to approach.
If the girl is approaching guys, and she doesn’t approach you, then you know she doesn’t like you. I’ve gone out with girls that may have wanted another guy, but I took the initiative and persisted.
Furthermore, hypergamous girls are likely to approach the same guys, or SAME guy (singular). Bad news all around.