December 20, 2010 at 2:20 pm
“other men could treat you like shit and still receive sexual and spiritual surrender, but with me I’m supposed to give her my best”
That…that is the main rub. Its not just her behavior – its the attitude of the other men. Just another conquest to boast about to their friends. She had a few drinks, dude picks her up, throws her in a cab next day. Back slap, laugh. Men know best how men think. His friends would not marry her after that. Should you? But who allowed it to happen? Yep, yep…miss priority. Men dont get crapped on and disrespected when out for sex, but women do often. A sad scene, but its not on you to pick up the pieces when she is done.
December 20, 2010 at 2:26 pm
“The always-entertaining Great Books For Men had the best line on this – “she wants me to pay for what she gave away for free.””
I have to admit that part of it is spite. If the kitten didn’t want me, I don’t want the cat, etc.
Susan Walsh says:
December 20, 2010 at 2:58 pm
Speaking of being sensible, please address the STD issue. If a woman has had sex with 30 partners, all of whom have also had sex with 30 partners, then from a health standpoint she has been sexually exposed to 900 people. Condoms do not prevent all STDs – and are largely ineffective against HPV and Molluscum Contagiosum. Furthermore, 75% of new genital herpes cases are Type 1 – in other words, from mouth to genitals. 75% of those cases are in women, who are much more likely to have herpes outbreaks than men are. Also, studies estimate that condoms are dispensed with at least a third of the time, across all age groups. In short, for a woman with a sexual history like that to be free of disease or virus is possible but very unlikely.
Both men and women have every right to avoid those with extensive sexual histories in order to protect their health, wouldn’t you agree?
Susan Walsh says:
December 20, 2010 at 3:03 pm
I confess I am somewhat baffled by this debate. Does Tom hope to convince other men to change their criteria in mate selection? To each his own, right? Tom should feel great about the woman he has chosen to marry if she meets his criteria for a great relationship. I don’t really understand why he insists that others feel great about her too. Perhaps Christopher Guest nailed it in Best in Show, where Katherine O’Hara and Eugene Levy play a married couple that keeps bumping into men she knew before. They are quite happy to see her again, saying things like, “Can you still do that thing with your legs?” and “That’s the only time I ever did it on a roller coaster!” Of course, Eugene Levy is a total chump – we are meant to have zero respect for him.