The essence of femininity
The Summertime Femininity Challenge
Wanting Closure
Winning With a Hard-to-Get Strategy
Giving Hookup Culture a Makeover
Be All the Things You Want In a Partner
Sleeping around
Office Romances Frequently Lead to Marriage

Sassy6519? says:
November 4, 2011 at 12:29 pm
@ Ramble

I meant that honestly. I don’t see the point in constantly asking a boyfriend, a man who has already decided that he finds me attractive by dating me, whether or not he thinks I’m attractive. It’s insecure and awfully redundant.

Secondly, I don’t dress for men. I dress for myself. If I were truly dressing to impress men, I wouldn’t be wearing nearly as much clothing as I do. I have described my fashion sense on another post on this blog. I describe my fashion sense as “Classic Femme”. I love bows, ribbons, lace, polka dots, and any other cutesy accessory. I don’t show a lot of skin. I like to be comfortable, so I never wear heels above 2 inches, due to my flat feet. I like how I look, and don’t feel the need to change it.

Also, I think there is a very big difference between asking “Do you like this dress?” and “Does this dress make me look fat?”. The first statement is meant to glean an objective opinion about the article of clothing only. The second is a can of worms that should never be issued to a man. Essentially, women who do this are insecure and want validation. They don’t think they’re attractive, so they constantly need to hear feedback about how they’re not fat to feel satisfied. I see no problem in asking the first question, but I see a whole lot of problems in asking the second question.

Olive says:
November 4, 2011 at 12:35 pm
I’m chiming in super late with this next one, but I’m going for it anyway.


I’ve really enjoyed reading your take on Greek life and hookup culture, and I totally get what you’re saying: sometimes, it’s not the success the girls have had, but the fact that they actually participated in hookup culture at all that makes guys wary of them. Their participation in situations with such ridiculous female-male ratios certainly leads an outsider to think that they’re vying for the attention of promiscuous men, even if they’ll never be successful.

I’d just add two things: