When Not Interested Just Isn’t Enough
How To Be In A Relationship Without Losing Friends
Not Everything About Your Ex is Bad
The Secret To Why Guys Act The Way They Do
A Do’s and Don’ts Guide to Halloween Hookups
When It Comes to Dating, Should You Be Channeling Your Inner G.I.Joe?
You’ve Been Warned: Red Flags to Watch for on a First Date
Even Gaga Would Call it a “Bad Romance”
For the second reader, maybe he thought the next step was getting engaged/married in their relationship, and then she says she wants to just live together for awhile. I still consider this a big step, but he might see it as you aren’t ready for that commitment of mariage and he was, and maybe he was a little taken back. I think you need to reassure him that if you do live together that engagement/marriage is the end goal.
Also, I would think that after four years you would know if someone is open to living together before marriage, but if it hadn’t been discussed previously maybe he isn’t open to it. Even in this day and age there are still a lot of people out there that want to live together only after they are married.
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lilliest
wrote on February 8 2010 @ 02:50 pm: [report]
It’s important to not be ‘backup girl’ as a ‘just friend’. He may be keeping you around in case the main thing doesn’t work out.
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Shriekback68
wrote on February 8 2010 @ 02:52 pm: [report]
@lillest: in this situation, they may be the most likely scenario. Some people like keeping a few people around as a backup plan.
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C.Munro
wrote on February 8 2010 @ 02:55 pm: [report]
How To Be In A Relationship Without Losing Friends
Not Everything About Your Ex is Bad
The Secret To Why Guys Act The Way They Do
A Do’s and Don’ts Guide to Halloween Hookups
When It Comes to Dating, Should You Be Channeling Your Inner G.I.Joe?
You’ve Been Warned: Red Flags to Watch for on a First Date
Even Gaga Would Call it a “Bad Romance”
For the second reader, maybe he thought the next step was getting engaged/married in their relationship, and then she says she wants to just live together for awhile. I still consider this a big step, but he might see it as you aren’t ready for that commitment of mariage and he was, and maybe he was a little taken back. I think you need to reassure him that if you do live together that engagement/marriage is the end goal.
Also, I would think that after four years you would know if someone is open to living together before marriage, but if it hadn’t been discussed previously maybe he isn’t open to it. Even in this day and age there are still a lot of people out there that want to live together only after they are married.
lilliest's avatar
lilliest
wrote on February 8 2010 @ 02:50 pm: [report]
It’s important to not be ‘backup girl’ as a ‘just friend’. He may be keeping you around in case the main thing doesn’t work out.
Shriekback68 's avatar
Shriekback68
wrote on February 8 2010 @ 02:52 pm: [report]
@lillest: in this situation, they may be the most likely scenario. Some people like keeping a few people around as a backup plan.
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C.Munro
wrote on February 8 2010 @ 02:55 pm: [report]